Peaches Prattlings

{February 2, 2016}   Monogamy…myth or magnificent?

To start off, I want to say flat out, I believe in monogamy, a big believer in it.

Sometimes, it feels like I might be in the minority.

I’ve been in a few relationships in my time, some for a short time, several for quite a while. When I was going through my divorce, my therapist said there are serial monogamists, people who are in a relationship for a certain number of years and then move on to the next person for that many years. Apparently, I was married to one, that’s what she was thinking. And in terms of straight monogamy, I’m not sure he knew what the word truly meant.

Since my divorce, I’ve been in two long term relationships, one was for three years and now, I’ve been with PSM for a year, just, and it’s been wonderful so far, not sure if you could tell from my posts about the adventures we’ve had, just saying…and I know it will continue to be so, I have great feeling about it, a better feeling than I’ve had for a long time.

The reason I am thinking and talking about this is I am watching The Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and there is a scene where a couple face each other and accuse each other of having an affair. She was having several, he wasn’t having any. [If you’ve never seen this movie, it’s about the older set]

She was carrying on with several men because she thought he was carrying on with other women. She said that when they met, they both said they were lonely, not celibate. The last things she says “if you’d like to try monogamy, which I think is for the young and very foolish, I’d like to give it a go”.

There are so many movies, songs, plays and books that make monogamy seem like a foreign concept, we laugh about it, make jokes, take bets, root for, really? There are also the same mediums that don’t poke fun, take it more seriously. Is there a right or wrong way to look at it?

“If you’d like to try monogamy, I’d like to give it a go”…is it really that simple or blase? I would said yes, simple. Simple to say yes, but it takes work, from both of you, you have to want to be there, be in it and be faithful, in every way. And if you’re in it and both want it, it can be incredibly rewarding.

Just random musings here, I could go on, but I’ll let you form your own opinions.






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