And tonight proved it more than ever!
Tonight DCM and I met dad and his friend, LB, for dinner with a dear family friend, SF, and her family. SF grew up with my mom, found out tonight they knew each other since they were about twelve. My mom was pregnant with me when SF got married, does that give you a better idea?
I’ve told you I know I look like my mom, started seeing it about 11 or 13 years ago when I looked up from washing my hands and there she was staring at me. Every year I look a little more like her and sound like her too, not the same accent, but the same laugh, well, up to the point I start laughing so hard I’m snorting!
I started dying my hair red consistently about thirteen years ago, I just got tired of being a brunette, plain and simple. At first, I was getting it professionally done, streaks, all sorts of things, then it wasn’t something I was spending money on, so I started dying it myself, this is not a secret, I’m pretty sure I’ve told you before, No 42 by L’Oreal and damn proud of it! Even do my eyebrows, lends to the believability! That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!
My mom had fire red almost orange hair when she was younger and as she got older, and it was long, I mean really long. When I was a baby, I used to grab it and get tangled in it, so she cut it, sorry mommy and as she got older, it started to turn brown. Then…she started dying it and when I say dyed her hair, we’re talking red, magenta, burgendy, nothing too crazy, but very noticeable. The funny thing is, she used to question me about my hair! Her carpool would look at her and say, “really?”
When my hair is short and styled a certain way, I look even more like her and I realized it when I was getting ready to go to dinner, but it was a real shock to SF, she gasped, covered her mouth and didn’t know what to say. She couldn’t believe it, the color, the cut, the style, the laugh, it took her a few minutes to take it all in, well, take me in, I guess I should say.
It’s funny, depending on the way I look at the camera, a different person stares back. One way, it’s me another way it’s my mom. I’ve posted pictures on Facebook, might have to do another with this haircut and find one of my mom, spooky. (Brings to mind the expression “Spitting Image”, which in and of itself will be a blog post, just giving you a heads up.)
It’s a mixed bag or blessing. Some days, when I look in the mirror, I want to see me looking back, no one else and it’s frustrating that I don’t see me or I should say just me, and other days, it’s like she’s with me and that’s comforting.