Do you remember when the movie Twilight first came out and everyone was either “Team Edward or Team Jacob?”

It’s interesting how we put that label on so many things, we take sides on so many things. It was even put to me recently regarding some friends that are getting divorced, since they’re splitting up, it’s assumed that I’m on Team X instead of Team Y, since I was friends with one party before the other.

Do we have to take sides? I guess it all depends on the situation. When I got divorced, it seems that most people went with Team Me, but I never asked anyone to take sides, it just worked out that way, I felt very lucky the people I “got to keep” as they say. It’s tough when you’re splitting up; there were friends that you had prior to becoming a couple, maybe you keep them or maybe they got closer to your now ex and it becomes too uncomfortable to stay friends with them, so you lose that friendship, that’s part of the business of splitting up, messy, but that’s how it is.

I will say, staying neutral is a crap shoot, sometimes you can do it, other times, it gets too complicated. Can you have a true alliance to both? Will they worry that you’ll be reporting back to the other? It can put a lot of pressure on you, that’s for sure!

As I said, it all depends on the situation, I have a friend that I’ve known since middle school who recently split with her husband, I became friends with him a few years ago and when I found out about the split, I tried to stay friend with both, but he didn’t make that possible, so I am definitely Team Her.

And of course, there are times, when you pick a side that you are “rah rah rah Team Your Friend” that you jump on that band wagon and blah/bash/grrr the other team, if it helps your friend, sometimes that’s what you have to do. So as much as it is not a great situation to be in, and unfortunately, they put you in that situation, you just have to make up your own mind, what you are going to do and to that I say, good luck.