Nope, that’s all I have to say.

Something I realized when I was going through a tough time, something I have shared with others going through tough times, something that I was reminded of today and shared with someone today. Wow, that was some…thing! (?Sorry, couldn’t resist)

And here it is…

When you are going through a tough time, your problem is all there is in your world and it consumes you and then you look around and realize that your problem is not as big as so many other things in the world so how can I focus on me and my problems when so many others are suffering.

Well, this is what I say to that. Everyone has problems and there are some that are huge to them and may seem like nothing to someone else, but they are your problems and it’s ok to focus on that.

Perfect example, when I was going through my divorce and I mean when the you know what first hit the perverbial fan. I was devastated and thought “woe is me, woe is me, how could this happen to me.” (ok, I didn’t actually say woe is me, but you get the idea) and after a bit, I began to think “how can I be so selfish, there are so many awful things in the world happening to everyone else, why should I be so focused on me, how could my little problem be important to anyone but me.” Or something like that. And I didn’t want to burden my friends with my problem and boo-hooing, they have their own worries to deal with I need to grow up and get over it. But my friends stood by me and let me boo hoo and get it out and I was so appreciative for that.

What’s important is to realize that our friends are there to help us, and we want them to boo hoo to us so we can help them. When we’re dealing with stuff, we want normalcy, even though we’re down, we want to know what’s going on with you, it might help us cope with what’s going on.

Also…you’re friends are there for you and you know who your true friends are and they will let you boo hoo as much as you want and/or need to, those are the ones who will still be there for you months down the road when you’re still confused and walking around in circles.

I have told my friends that once we’re friends, it’s forever and they’re stuck with me and if they need me, day or night, I’m there and when they’re going through something, if they want to call me and say whatever including boo hoo, even months later, go ahead, I’m here for a good boo hoo (please don’t ask, I’m on a boo hoo kick) because there may be a day in the future when I need to call you for a good boo hoo.

So, bottom line is..your problems are just that, your problems and no matter what size, they are important to you and therefore, should not be belittled or lessened, especially by you because they seem so insignificant.