If I have moved on and it’s in the past, why can’t you?

Before I go into my daily musing, I did go to the orthopedist for my knee. (I am filing a workers comp claim for my wrist, it’s a lot harder to go to see someone when there is a claim to file, but I am hoping to see the same ortho, really good guy, but I am taking care of it JR). He said everything looks good, I didn’t tear my meniscus, which is great, reflexes are good, flexibility is good, it seems that the uneven ground during the races is just aggravating it. Even as he was checking things, he was watching my eyes to show signs if pain, nothing. It was hard to tell him about the pain when I’m not in any (no CKM, I didn’t have to run downhill in the mud to tear up my knee just so I could describe the pain!).

He gave me some good exercises I could do to strengthen my legs, knees, hamstrings, so I will try those and hopefully they will help. He said he didn’t want to send me for PT, since it wasn’t a constant issue. He also prescribed something topical that I should use when the pain is bad. I’m not sure I won’t be able to sit cross legged while I work, I said I would try.

I told him about getting my knee wrapped with Rock Tape, so he sent me to the PT office down the street, thinking they could wrap my knee and also tell me what to get and how to apply it properly so as to not do any damage. And here comes my musing for the day.

When I get to the PT office, I am talking to a receptionist, waiting to talk to a therapist and a woman stands really close, remember that post about personal space? I turn towards her and just as the receptionist says “Personal space, J” I realize its one of my former neighbors, we hug, exchange pleasantries and then she asks…”Are you still with (insert wasband’s name)?” really?!? I said “No, we’ve been divorced almost 5 years”, “oh that’s right” huh?

The year after we split, I ran into her around Christmas and she asks me about him, I said we were divorced, and he had married the woman “he fell on top of”, that was 3 years ago! You’re going to ask me about him now? I didn’t forget that you got divorced, didn’t know how long, but I knew you were divorced. She then looked embarrassed and didn’t know where to go from there, so asked about her kids.

A few months ago, I ran into a neighbor, very sweet and I think well intentioned, but with no filter. It’s been almost FIVE years, yes, five years and I think I’ve adjusted quite well, but every time we see each other, she wants to talk about my ex and his wife, as if it were yesterday. She felt that she had been wronged in the deal as well, she was friends with the woman and their kids played together, that’s great, but I have moved on, I don’t want to talk about what you had suspected, how you felt you were tricked and deceived and how you act towards them when you see them now.

When we run into each other, ask me how I am, ask me about my life, don’t ask me about my past. I don’t think there is anyone who knows me who doesn’t know I’m no longer married, I am thriving, have amazing family and friends to talk about and brag on, I’m in a great relationship, I’m move to Colorado!! and I have a lot to talk about, if you want to know, let’s talk about what I’m doing today, lets talk about the future, lets talk about what we’re having for dinner, but please, leave the past where it is, that’s why it’s called the past.

Thanks for listening, I think I’m done, well for tonight anyway!