The time honored tradition of Girl’s Night… How far back does it go? I’m sure farther than we can imagine. How did it start? Was it all the men went out together, so the women were left together to fend for themselves, entertain themselves?

Book clubs, movie clubs, just plain ole girls night; girls night out, girls night in, it’s a wonderful thing. It’s funny, not sure if you’ve thought of this, but isn’t it more common to see a group of women out to dinner than a group of men? You don’t normally think of a group of guys going to a nice sit down dinner, sometimes look at them and think, work thing, you look at a group of women, think girls night or ladies dinner, but don’t give it second glance.

So… Girls night. It’s a nice thing, no pressure, other than figuring out where to go and when, but who thought when you start out with that group that as we get older, it gets harder and harder to get together. It’s one night a month, if you’re really lucky, once a quarter is more common.

I have a few different groups of friends who try to get together for girls night dinner, most of them know or know of each other, and there is one person who crosses over into two of the groups I am
friends with, we worked with someone in each of the groups, but it seems odd to think about joining the groups on a regular basis.

For me, there are four groups I try to get together with as often as i can and once in a while, try to get everyone together, but that can get crowded. The thing I love is that each group is so unique, each person brings something different and special to each group and even the cross overs bring something particular to that group that we are with at that time.

One group is women I used to work with, we started out with five, 3 of us had been let go, the other 2 left on their own, lucky girls. We lost one, she’s still around, just stopped coming to girls night, then sometimes it’s the 4 of us, then sometimes it’s 3, sometimes, it’s just two. One of the women and I became thick a thieves, we like going out just the two of us.

Then there’s the group that was brought together by someone that doesn’t participate in any of the girls activities anymore, but I worked with one of the group and my friend who is the crossover did as well, we have some history there. This group has been expanded by some more wonderful women. We’ve grown into quite a tight knit group.

Then… Another group of women that I try to get together with, we worked together at another company, imagine that! That’s even harder to plan as travel schedules get crazy, but we try and I actually got to spend time with them tonight, that only took 3 months to coordinate!

There used to be a ladies dinner in my neighborhood once a month, not sure what happened there, but I do miss it, it was really special, getting to see neighbors that we may only see in passing and want to spend more time together, I miss that group…

I realize that I am rambling, but what I want to say is that girls nights are so important. It gives us a chance to catch up, spend time with dear friends, laugh, cry, advise, just be ourselves, we know we don’t have to impress anyone in the group, we’ve seen each other at our best and our worst, lift each other, maybe even knock each other down a few pegs, that’s what friends are for.

I am looking forward to my next girls night, let me know if you’re interested, I’ll include you in the email.